It's NOT on the cards yet!

"When are you planning to get married? Are you dating someone already?"

These are few of the many questions, which are hurled at you, when your mid 20's clock starts ticking. These statements sound more like buzzing alarms than mere questions.
No one cares if you have just emerged triumphant fighting with your inner demons or if you are taming puny insecurities like managing the last few days of the month on just say, few glasses of water and a pack of Maggi (noodles).

These questions are most likely asked by the people of your own clan, whom you might have met only during those plush family weddings while having a mouthful of Gulabjamun's (a sweet Indian delicacy) or by one of your friends, who recently got married to his/her childhood sweetheart or by others who are set on a  "find your perfect match" spree, looking out for Mr.Right or Ms. Perfect, for you. Then of course, there are your parents, who think of 'your' marriage as 'their' sole responsibility, because their so called grown-up kid is still single and unable to mingle. The stakes are high, that you might end up with a petite marriage proposal. All of them, will assure you that you are at the right age to be married. And not thinking about it is so uncool, that you might just end up spending your entire life alone. Holy Cow!

"Don't you know there are several complications during pregnancy, if a girl conceives in her 30's? Our lifestyles have become so stressful these days!", said one of my elite friends almost frantically.

Me: Uh,No! I am not aware of the complications. But c'mon don't you think that we have better technology now, as compared to stone age? Better facilities. Better....
Friend: *interrupting me* Go Google sweety. You have no idea what you are talking about!
Me: *awkward silence*

Let me confess here, that I did try to Google about "those" kind of problems that trouble women in late 20's and 30's but to my friend's remorse, I instead took pleasure in reading about all the the best places that I could visit before I die, than worrying about my future kids. That's when I came across a blog "Frankly, right now, I’m having the time of my life" written by Joy Chen. In her blog she says:

"If you think that getting safely married will suddenly make you official and let you into the club of legitimate achievers, then unfortunately, I have bad news. Public scrutiny will turn to whether you’re giving enough care to your man/woman. Love is profound. Marriage is not. Anyone can get married at any time. Marriage is just another human relationship that one can enter or exit at will. We all need security. But the only security that’s lasting is the security you find within yourself. Autonomy is the basis for intimacy. Don’t wait to find someone. You are someone. Now I wish I could hit the REWIND button on my life, march back into all those media interviews and all those dinner parties, and, when asked “Why aren't you married yet,” look them in the eye, smile, and say “Because, frankly, right now, I’m having the time of my life.”

Marriage is becoming more of a social status; a necessity, to claim your reputation based on your partner's. Do you think that's fair? I am definitely not against marriage, but it is this social stigma that bothers me. Whether you are single or committed, you'll sure have some things in your life, which are worth the time, the wait, the pain, the frustration, the extra effort and that extra smile. And these are THE things that should find place in your Bucket List, right above marriage. These things should be on priority. Doing something crazy is easy but being able to claim the after effects of it heads on, adds that extra zing to your life which your married/committed friends will never be able to do 'alone'. It’s important to remember that when the going gets tough, with anything whether it be work-related, while in a relationship, family matters, etc., it is important to be true to yourself. First step to lend security to that special person in your life is by first feeling secure, content and revered of your current self.  

Swallow your pride ladies and gentlemen: You get what you give, not what you think you deserve. Life is one big gamble. Are you ready to play the bait? 

Tell me what you think..!!

 

Make a choice while it's Legal

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And then God said "Go ahead! Pick your choice. That's how you will learn how to pray!"

We are progressing towards a future of vulnerable existence. In today's media frenzy lifestyle, we are judged not on what we really are, but on the basis of how we portray ourselves on our social media profiles. Our profiles have become a handbook, where we reveal our authentic selves and allow others to have a first look of our Thoughts, Temperaments, Opinions and most importantly our Choices. With the joy of acceptance, there is an underlying possibility of being misunderstood, labelled, or worst of all, being rejected. This fear of rejection can be so powerful that some tend to wear it like an armour. In exception to life choices of birth and death, we ought to make choices that mend our lives from time to time. Our choices are what we are.

And we are what we repeatedly do. Some of us can choose to blame circumstances on fate or bad luck. But, only a mighty few will admit that, it's mainly the choices they have made. Sense of achievement and failure hence becomes subjective to every individual. All of us are living a new struggle every day. Some struggles are indisputable and others are air blown kisses from karma (the bitch!) but the essence remains similar. So, how do we snap out of it? Ignorance was bliss but not anymore. It is time we look beyond that. It is easy to Whatsapp or *add the name the messaging app you frequently use* but difficult to call the person. It is easy to comment or like the status updates but difficult to provide a shoulder before the tear of happiness descends. 

Think about it.

Choose your ways of expressing wisely, before they make it illegal.

Do the right thing today, because tomorrow is a not a luxury and present will soon be past.